A brass rubbing done by Lady Duck when we lived in the UK in the 1970s Over the last couple of months, I've stepped up to being the Adult in the Room. I've been the A/R before, when my son was growing up, but this is the next stage of life: parenting your parents. I don't think Colonel Duck would agree with my terminology, but he definitely understands now that I'm able to help in in ways that he wouldn't have accepted a few months ago. Together we have transitioned Lady Duck from home care to a care home. It's been emotional, but also a profound relief on my part. CDk was doing an excellent job according to his capacity, but it had narrowed LDk's life to a lot of TV-babysitting and occasional outings for Nice Meals Elsewhere. Lady Duck is the eldest of four sisters, so grew up with a lot of female company, and she also had strong women for a mother and grandmothers. She was shy, but also confident. She has always, albeit quietly, done things her own way. ...
Recently my lovely friend Liz died in her sleep. It's hard to be too sad when someone who was almost 90 dies in such a peaceful way, and more than anything, I've been feeling grateful for her presence in my life and quietly gathering my memories of her. I wanted to write this straight away but it's taken me a few weeks of processing to realise that she's really gone. Image above: Cover for Ada Cambridge, A Woman's Friendship , serialised in the Melbourne Age in 1889, published in the Colonial Texts Series in 1988, edited by Dr Elizabeth Morrison The last time I saw her in person was in her new room in an aged care complex in Melbourne. We sat amongst her books, heartbreakingly culled to fit the small bookshelves, and her choices included things that I'd given her and produced for her, which was a lovely compliment. As last times go, it was a lovely enc...